Unlearning and Fitting In
Nosy and uninvolved family members and acquaintances thought I was nuts. The repeated mantra was, “Your child won’t be socialized and will be an outcast.”
Who’s to say sending them to public or private school would socialize them and make them an incast? Why did they think this is what I should aim for and when did this become the standard?
I didn’t know anyone that had homeschooled nor did I have any support to go down that path. I had only researched, attended conferences and studied its benefits. Even my husband at the time needed convincing.
Here are some reasons I wanted to homeschool:
- To establish a strong foundation of faith [not religious]
- To further deepen and strengthen family bonds, their main support system
- To teach them to use that faith to hear and listen to their heart and mind
- To teach them to follow their instincts in relation to learning and exploring
- To teach them to question everything. Every-thing, Every-one and Every-doctrine
- To teach the connectedness of humanity and their responsibility
- To teach them their ABC’s and 123’s. The easier stuff.
It isn’t necessary to homeschool to teach these points. I’m not purporting it’s the right thing for all families. I just felt a strong desire to do it this way and was only able to do it for a short time.
I continue to work to teach all the same values while my children attend public schools but it is more complicated under the influence of a tried and true system of regurgitated information that often goes unquestioned. The history book is just that. A book. The child needs to understand that although he can get an ‘A’ for knowing and understanding the story, that it is just that. A story.
I struggle with proving that truth requires a deeper look than what is being fed and rarely it will be in the books they were given.
All said, education still begins at home and the parents, caregivers, etc., are responsible for planting the values they hope that child might use as the foundation point for their BASE jump in the world as an adult. It is not the responsibility of the ‘system’ to do this.
If you don’t step in and teach your child about how to hear and so use their unique gifts and talents, you may find that the child excited about their hand-traced turkey purposed to look like every other hand-traced turkey, doesn’t seek to bring forth the creations of his or her heart and mind, the ones that can change the world.
In fact, they may be become so ‘socialized’ that creating or questioning the possibility of making anything outside of that turkey and being different might instill fear and shame.
Encourage inquiry and the exploration of stepping outside of and breaking apart the boxes. Reassure them they need not stand inside or fit in to ‘Be’.